HaBitza » Polls

Do you date people close to what you’re looking for?

Deena — Mon, 28 Feb 2011 17:48:56 +0000

Here is the poll I just took down from the sidebar (after leaving it up way too long).

The next question is: Do you like using online dating? Check in the side bar, vote and tell your friends to vote too!

P.S. If you still didn’t vote on this poll here, you can.

Platonic relationships with the opposite sex? Maybe if you’re gay.

Deena — Sun, 28 Nov 2010 18:45:15 +0000

Look, I’m sorry. I just don’t believe it. You might have friends of the opposite sex but I don’t think there is such a thing as a totally platonic relationship between a guy and girl. It always feels at least somewhat different talking to someone of your own gender and talking to someone of the opposite gender.

Here is the poll where I asked you if you’ve ever had a platonic relationship with someone of the opposite sex. Of course I was one of the only ones who didn’t lie :) because only 11% (3 people) said they’ve never had a platonic relationship.

If you haven’t voted, you still can. But the at the time of publishing of this post the results say that:

48% (13 people) have platonic relationships with the opposite sex all the time.

41% (11 people) have had once or twice.

11% (3 people) have never had a platonic relationship with a member of the opposite sex.

OK, whatever. :)

Is it bad that people become less religious the longer they’re single?

Deena — Thu, 04 Nov 2010 11:39:03 +0000

Here is what you think of the fact that it seems that people become less religious the longer they stay single. Feel free to vote if you haven’t yet.

Any ideas of polls you’d like to see here? Let me know!

Do people become less religious the longer they are single?

Deena — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 23:07:09 +0000

So, apparently most of you think that yes, there is a trend towards keeping less the longer one is single.

I am sure I am not the only single that always felt defensive with this idea. For years I heard it and it always annoyed me because when I became “less” religious (when I say it about myself the word “less” gets quotation marks, so it seems), as far as I was (and am) concerned, it had nothing to do with being single.

If anything, the opposite is true. I had my religious issues when I was still very young and very not ready for marriage (like, around the age of 18+) and I couldn’t get married until I somewhat figured those issues out and am quite sure I am a happier, more fulfilled person for it (well, who can tell with these things).

In other words, I stayed single because I needed to become less religious first. I didn’t become less religious because I was still single. Get it?

And the idea made me defensive because it took away the legitimacy or the meaning behind my religious journey. Meaning, I know that I have gone through a whole religious process but someone who believes in this theory will look at me and say, “Oh, Deena is less religious because she is single. If only she’d gotten married, she’d have been OK. Nebach.”

How has your singlehood affected your religiosity or visa versa?

P.S. I have my next poll in my mind already. I want to know, do you think it’s a bad thing that people become less religious as they get older and are still single? Make sure to vote!

Our last poll: Minimum date requirement?

Deena — Tue, 14 Sep 2010 15:44:30 +0000

Our latest poll asked you if you think people should try to go on a certain amount of dates with each person before deciding if they want to continue or not?

At the time of this posting:

18 said 1 date.

25 said 2-3 dates.

5 said 3-4 dates.

Someone just today told me that if he had a rule that he had to go on at least 2-3 dates with every girl he dated, he would hate dating. He also wondered why there wasn’t a zero option. : )

So, that’s the story. What’s next on the agenda?

P.S. You can still vote if you haven’t yet.

Current poll – how many dates should you go on?

Deena — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 21:56:58 +0000

I LOVE Froug.

The current poll asks you what the minimum number of dates is that you should go on with any given person. I know that as the girl who blogs about this stuff all the time, I should have voted at least more than one. And yet, when I went to vote (I always vote on the polls, I hope you do too!), I was drawn to the number one and that is what I voted.

I felt like such a rebel without a cause. :)

I think I just hate feeling pressured to do something, especially if I imagine certain situations where that pressure will feel very wrong.

Basically, there are definitely instances where you really don’t feel like seeing someone after one date and I’m really not sure you should feel like you’re doing something wrong if you decide not to go out again!

On the other hand, when people tell me that you really cannot know someone after one date, of course I must agree. Really, what can you know about someone after one date? You know how they acted with you on a first date. You know what they said. You know how they looked.

You don’t know how much of what you saw is actually how the person behaves and talks when he/she is not on a nerve-wracking first date. So maybe you should keep going out until you think you’ve gotten a better feel for a person.

Yes, no, may be so but sometimes that just doesn’t fly. And, should we not have some faith that you get a basic feel for the person on the first date?

I feel like I change my mind every Monday and Thursday but it’s not that I’m changing my mind. It’s that these topics are complex and it’s hard to have strict rules for these things. Or at least, you can have strict rules but if at some point you feel like your rules need to change, then they probably should.

Is one date not enough? Write your opinions here and make sure to vote in the poll!

Photo by fayes4art on flickr.

Our latest poll – Is it OK to facebook a new date? No.

Deena — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 21:49:56 +0000

In our latest poll we asked you if it’s cool to add someone as a facebook friend soon after beginning to date them. Most people said, “No!”

I agree. :)

You can still vote if you haven’t.

Will you date a matchmaker?

Deena — Sun, 23 May 2010 09:33:23 +0000

Woops, not will you date a matchmaker! Would you go to a matchmaker? That was our question in our last poll and the results are below. If you haven’t yet voted, you still can.

Do you relate to Srugim?

Deena — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 09:20:47 +0000

Here is our latest poll. Looks like most of you sometimes relate to Srugim, the tv show about the singles in Katamon, Jerusalem, while the rest of you were split between feeling it perfectly depicted your life or you saw no similarities at all.

The next question is, is it a good or bad thing to be able to relate to Srugim? And, do we have control over it?

The results of the latest poll – the guy should pay?

Deena — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 22:46:19 +0000

Poor Vera… For all her effort, it seems that the results of the poll were not at all as she would have wanted.

The results show that most people believe that guys should pay on the first date. How that is fair to these guys going on so many first dates is beyond me. If someone can explain this to me, I’d be much obliged!

Here are the results at the time of publishing of this post. You can still vote if you haven’t.

The couple should split the bill equally – go Dutch. 11% (9 votes)

He should pay the bill, she should pay the tip. 14% (11 votes)

What kind of a schlob wouldn’t pay for the date? Of course he should pay! 51% (40 votes)

She should pay the bill, dammit! And the tip! 0% (0 votes)

Each date is different. There are no rules. 16% (13 votes)

Other: 8% (6 votes)