So, what are you looking for? and other popular questions
Did you know you are not being forced to answer any question anyone ever asks you (except, I suppose if it’s the Mossad asking).
So, what if someone asks you what you’re looking for in a spouse or how you define yourself religiously? What if they ask you if you go to a matchmaker or do online dating?
Well, then you answer what you want to answer. I happen to find these questions to be pretty personal and don’t feel comfortable answering just anyone. The problem is that often I feel put on the spot because if I answer I feel like I shared things that were too private (and often too hard to explain standing on one foot) but if I don’t share, I could come off seeming a little weird or too private or like I don’t really want help meeting someone because if I did, I’d be willing to put myself out there.
So someone just asked me what I’m looking for. I asked him why he was asking and he said just so he could have it in mind (he doesn’t really know me so not sure how much he’d have it in mind anyway). I told him I prefer only to talk about this if there is use in it because it’s private. There were a couple more back and forths and that was that. I am very happy I didn’t give in because I did not feel good about sharing this information with him.
Do you feel like you’re giving someone private information when you answer the question, “What are you looking for?” Do you sometimes feel pressured into answering questions posed to you because otherwise you’ll give a bad impression?