My anthropological study
Of late, my dating experiences have become an anthropological study of myself. I keep noticing how the Deena species (oh wait, wrong science) interacts with other species it comes into contact with.
Dating gives me the opportunity to interact with lots of different kinds of people and I see how with certain personalities I see my cool, fun, calm side. With others I see my bitchy, defensive side and with others I am neither wonderful nor terrible.
I am sorry to bring up something so idol-worshipy but it makes me think maybe there is something to the whole astrology signs thing. We just naturally mesh better with certain types of people than with others.
I think that being aware of what different people bring out in you is really important in dating (and in general with regards to your choice of who to hang out with). If you start chatting with someone and find the conversation keeps bringing up negative things in you, I’d be surprised if that would be different in person.
Recently I met someone with whom I am nothing spectacular. I am not a wonderful human being but I am not a terrible one either, with him. I think that this is as good as, if not better than starting a relationship from a place where the person is bringing out amazing things in you since there is nothing causing immediate tension or anything extreme and you can see if something can be built from there.
What I also find fascinating is that I could get along with someone who gets along with someone else but me and the third person don’t get along.
This is when I get into the whole idea of the world becoming one entity. Or already being one entity. I may not like a certain personality type but I like someone who likes that type and together we are connected. I dunno, I think it’s pretty cool. And if the whole signs thing is true (wash my mouth out with soap and water), then it’s even more a bringing together of all edges of the universe. Or at least the Milky Way.
Shana tova!
