Calling all nice guys/girls…
Calling all nice guys/girls and those who love them…
Relating to Deena’s post “You’re a nice guy but…”, and also to Mike’s comment on that post – does anyone have suggestions how to resolve the situation? How to allow nice girls and nice guys to appreciate and be appreciated? This also relates back to my “It’s the bad boys” post – wow, 3 references in one blog post, Deena aren’t you impressed?
One of the most important things Deena and I wanted Habitza.com to do is to work towards change. So here, everyone agrees, there’s an issue, usually expressed in convoluted explanations that start with:
“You’re a nice guy, but…”
“Look, you’re a really nice girl, but…”
And the inevitable…
“It’s not you, it’s me…”
And it’s true – very often after years of marriage to the bad guy, or bad girl, people do think back with nostalgia and fond memories of the nice person they ditched all those years ago (I don’t, I married him…).
So what’s wrong with nice? Why don’t we (well, some of us) appreciate nice? Any suggestions how to turn this around?
My personal experiences have shown me that women hate and reject nice me.
Women love men who are: tall, big, strong, muscular, handsome and rich.
Then they accuse men of being superficial.
Bit of a superficial generalization don’t you think?
Something can be superficial but still true.