Keep the faith? Maybe.
Someone just told me about a dating experience she had and it was the kind that can really leave you feeling hopeless. I keep having them too. They might go something like this:
- The guy is really nice but not marriage-minded.
- It seemed to be a great date but for some reason unbeknownst to you, the other person isn’t interested in a second date.
- She’s SOOO nice but you just don’t connect.
- And on and on…
How can one keep the faith while going through such a gruelling process? It’s not easy, especially when really we have no idea how things are going to work out! I’ve heard a few times the idea that if we knew 100% that in such-and-such a number of months/years we’re going to meet the right person, all of this wouldn’t be a big deal. But we don’t know and so it is a big deal.
There are a couple things I can think of that might help.
First, maybe not putting all our eggs in one basket is a good idea. In this case, these are emotional eggs. This is definitely a balance but maybe, when we still barely know the person (and two dates is still barely knowing), instead of looking at our dates as fathers/mothers-of-our-children material, we instead just view them as another human we are getting the opportunity to meet. Shouldn’t that help make the ride less bumpy? (The question, of course, is how to do that.)
Besides that, I find that if I let myself feel pissed or sad, those feelings don’t last forever. Of course if they persist, then it’s time to get some really good, possibly professional, help. And considering the difficulty involved in this process, needing extra support and help would make total sense.
I don’t know… It’s really not easy. How do we find strength to endure any difficulties in life? Especially those that persist… Ideas?
Chizuk (strength) to us all!
Alcohol?
:) Good one!