So you think the guys should pay? Last call for votes!

so coffee means "I love you"?

So sad.  I have to admit defeat.

Out of 68 votes, 35 of you have voted that guys should pay on the first date.  Only a measly 6 of you agree with me that the first date should be declared Dutch (sorry to all Netherlanders who find this offensive…).

I can only conclude that:

• You prefer the awkwardness of not knowing how much the evening will cost you?
• You prefer not knowing if you have to pay for her meal, or for her coffee, or just for yourself?
• You prefer having someone say to you (or think at you) “after I spent all that money on you, you’re not going out with me again?”
• You prefer the indecision about what to order because you’re starving, he’s only ordering coffee and he’s paying? or not?
• You buy into the concept that a guy should be judged by his generosity with money on the first date?
• You buy into the highly sexist brainwashing we’ve all gone through that something in the guy spending money on the girl is truly romantic?
• You believe that dating is so traumatic that you’re going to make the guys pay, literally?  Because you should at least get a free coffee, sushi, burger meal, gourmet repast out of it?
• You (the guys) have lots of money and really don’t care one way or another?  (in which case you can take me and my soulmate out any time…)

Can romance grow without being connected to spending money?  Is everyone so happy with the way things are done now that they are unwilling to look into doing things differently?  Does the expression “well that works for me” come to your mind?  And do you ever wonder, if it works so well for you, why is it so traumatic or uncomfortable?

We’re closing this poll within the next few days – so if you just haven’t bothered to vote yet – VOTE DUTCH!

Photo by lepiaf.geo at flickr