You are a dating hero
Yes, YOU. Well, OK, maybe not you (the married person reading this…). But last night, as I was travelling towards a date (that’s not a geographical place), feeling terribly nervous, I was thinking about how brave all of you are, who do this over and over again.
Yeah, I knew it wouldn’t sound as good “on paper” as it did in my head a few hours ago. My stomach was flipping all over the place and I knew that I was going into an unknown situation. Didn’t know how it would go. Didn’t know what would happen afterwards. But I was doing it because I know it’s what I have to do and it’s what I choose to do.
We ended up in a cafe where, I told him, I saw at least one other person I know who soooo was also on a first date.
“The whole world is on first dates tonight,” I said to mine.
It’s no easy task, putting yourself out there. Our experiences shape us and recurring ones, even more so. I always half jokingly tell people that statistically, the chances of a date going well (meaning, leading to a wedding) are slim to none. Why? Well, I’ve been on X number of dates and none of them have lead me to a wedding till now. So “statistically” this one probably won’t either.
Of course this is total shtuyot (best translated as bs). My dates of the past don’t tell me about the date of the present. But the fact is, going through the recurring experience of “failed” dates, will naturally effect a person quite profoundly, I would think. And to continue putting yourself out there, in the hope of reaching your goal, is commendable.
And so, fellow dater, I commend you.
P.S. The flip side, of course, is that if there are things we could be doing differently on dates, would it not make sense to try to figure out what those things are in order to try to create a change? Maypole dancing? More complimenting? More British accents?
