HaBitza

A facebook friend just posted one of the sweetest videos I’ve ever seen. It’s about a guy who sincerely sees beauty in everyone, and actually tells the people the good that he sees which, in turn, bringing that beauty out in them. As the viewer, you might be thinking, “What a nerd” or “She’s just an old lady” but when the guy makes them smile from true happiness, suddenly they don’t look so plain anymore…

Taaaaaaaaaaaaake that into the dating world… We can be quite scrutinizing on dates. I think, at least with me, it’s a defense mechanism (defense from what, is a whole other question). We are very reserved. Most of the time we’re not exactly lauding each other’s praises on dates. Maybe you’ll get a little compliment here and there and any more than that and it’s already considered weird.

But maybe there’s something to it. What would happen if we actually complimented each other more on dates? Would that create more of an openness towards each other? Would it help us see the good in each other?

I do not promote fakeness at all but maybe it would be nice if more of an openness was created through more complimenting.

I know, the video is a whole 16:32 minutes long but please watch it! And let me know what you think.