Just Blame It (with apologies to Nike)
Why is anyone still single? Why are there more singles today than ever before? Why are people not getting married for pete’s sake! (Pete is an ancient deity, worshipped mainly in the British Isles…)
What’s the solution? What can we do?
Just blame it! (with apologies to Nike, although I’m sure we’ve apologised before in this blog!)
Blame it on the guys.
Blame it on the girls.
Blame it on the marrieds.
Blame it on the holocaust.
Blame it on glossy magazines.
Blame it on television.
Blame it on yourself.
Blame it on everyone else.
Blame it till you’re blue in the face.
Blame it till you’re seeing red.
Blame it on your parents.
Blame it on your children.
Blame it on the matchmakers.
Blame it on the cheesemakers.
Blame it on the Jews.
Blame it on orthodoxy.
Blame it on atheism.
Blame it on G*d.
Blame it on Satan.
Blame it on Joe Smith (he’s used to it).
Blame it on your neighbours.
Blame it on your friends.
Blame it on your rabbi.
Blame it until the word “blame” no longer seems to belong to the English language. One of my favourite teachers, Byron Katie (www.thework.com) asks “who would you be without your story?” In that vein, I ask “who would you be without a story that involves blaming something or someone, including yourself, for everything in your life?”
So just blame it. Till you’re sick of that. And then go out into the world and live the joyous life you’re capable of.
Veraleh (you know where this is going when I start like that),
For sure I agree that pointing fingers is a waste of time and energy… Except, well, maybe I don’t even agree with that. I mean, when you’re trying to solve a problem is it not important to figure out the root of the problem? We’ve discussed this so many times already and still I just don’t get it. I am not saying specifically point fingers at the other person. I’m saying, look at the situation and varify, try to understand, what you’re looking at. Maybe you’ll point fingers at yourself too and maybe that’ll be helpful, no?
If you don’t try to understand the root(s) of the problem, then aren’t the solutions just shooting in the dark? Yes, it’s very complex and maybe some things we can never understand, but I feel like working on both ends at the same time is best – try to recognize specific issues while simultaniously coming up with possible solutions – is best.
Look, even your idea for the dating game (a page here on HaBitza, for those who don’t know), while very creative, is based on certain root problems you perceived, no?
You forgot “Blame it on the boogie”! ;)