Single event dos according to insearchofhubby

One of our avid readers commented on my blog post, “Shhh… I attended a singles event.” She calls herself insearchofhubby and she has a blog whose goal is just that – to help her find a hubby. I so respect her putting herself out there like that. She wants to get married and you can’t say she isn’t doing something about it!

Here are some of her ideas regarding the planning of singles events:

1. Event organizers/hosts should adopt a stronger “social butterfly” attitude.

It helps if the event’s sponsors/organizers are good at circulating themselves through the crowd and establish themselves as social connectors/mediators for the evening to help people to mingle, draw different people into conversations, actively introduce people to each other and so on.

Some people are more socially adept than others. If the host is a social butterfly, s/he will get everyone involved and help guests to circulate themselves. If you leave the guests on their own, most likely the event will be thought of as “blah” by most guests.

2. Enforce age control.

If the event line reads: “This is an event for people in their 30s,” then the event needs to cater to that. Don’t allow young 20s in, and neither welcome people in their 40s. I decide to go and do/not do an activity based on its description. If the description reads one thing, and the reality provides another picture, the gap can and often is annoying.

3. Enforce reasonable ratio of sexes.

If the event has 40 guys signed up and 120 girls, for crying out loud, cancel the event! Such ratio is bound to create various uncomfortable dynamics. It is likely that guys will feel awkward because they are so vastly outnumbered by women, and feel pressured. Girls are likely to feel thoughts and pressures of “Oh my gosh, the competition is plain crazy!”

At the same time, even with those three suggestions/changes I would like to see, I hold that at the end of the day it is up to the guests to make the best out of the event. If you are going to look at it as new experience and embrace it as a possibility to experience something new you haven’t before, than it is on you to work on yourself to stay positive, and see the light everywhere.

Make sense, people?