I look at singles event as I would at any other social event – some of them are more fun and better organized than others.

In my experiences there are 3 things that I would do differently.

1. Event organizers/hosts adapting stronger “social butterfly” attitude.

It helps if the event’s sponsors/organizers are good at circulating themselves through the crowd, and establish themselves as social connectors/mediators for the evening to help people to mingle, draw different people into conversations, actively introduce people to each other and so on.

Some people are more socially adept than others; some guests are going to have no problem mingling on their own, and majority won’t :)))) If the host is a social butterfly, s/he will get everyone involve and help guests to circulate themselves. If you leave the guests on their own, most likely the event will be thought of as “blah” by most guests.

2. Enforce age control.

If the event line reads “This is the event for people in their 30th”, then the event needs to cater to that. Don’t allow young 20th in, and neither welcome people in their 40th. I decide to go and do/not do an activity based on its description. If the description reads one thing, and the reality provides another picture, the gap can and often is annoying.

3. Enforce reasonable ratio of sexes.

If the event has 40 guys signed up and 120 girls, for crying out loud, cancel the event! Such ratio is bound to create various uncomfortable dynamics. It is likely that guys will feel awkward because they are so vastly outnumbered by women, and feel pressured. Believe or not while guys may dream about having a huge harem, in reality being few among a sea of girls makes them very uncomfortable). Girls are likely to feel triple, if not, quadruple thoughts and pressures of “Oh my gosh, the competition is plain crazy!”

At the same time, even with those 3 suggestions/changes I would like to see, I hold that at the end of the day it is up to the guests to make the best out of the event. If you are going to look at it as new experience and embrace it as a possibility to experience something new you haven’t before, than it is on you to work on yourself to stay positive, and see the light everywhere.