You rule. You play.

A message from Vera and Deena

Some of the strongest feedback we’ve received has to do with “The rules” page.  Your reactions to our suggested rules have included the following:

• Delight – especially from guys who don’t want to pay for first dates
• Head-nodding – a lot of you seem to be occasionally nodding or saying things to us but never commenting in print
• Confusion – an awful lot of head-scratching about some of the ideas
• Dismay – from those ladies who would like the guys to pay for first dates
• Disgust – sometimes a little too strongly worded to approve as comments for the site!

We have been spending a lot of time discussing the feedback and trying to figure out how to take it and make HaBitza.com more in tune with what people seem to want and need.

And so, in lieu of your feedback, we’ve decided to make a couple of pretty big changes to HaBitza.com.

A new “The dating game” page

Until now, all the “rules” were clumped into one page. But we’ve come to realize that actually there are two types of “rules.” So things are being moved around a bit and very soon we will be putting up a new page called, “The dating game.”

The ideas you’ll find on the new page called “The dating game,” aren’t rules, exactly, but more like suggestions that can potentially help change the focus of the interactions between two people. These ideas are intended for situations where both daters feel they would like to try something different and they agree on it in advance. These are strange ideas like, “Ask each other really weird questions during the first phone call.” There is logic behind these ideas, believe it or not. We’ll continue discussing the thoughts behind these ideas on the site.

The original “The rules” page is the place for rules of etiquette. These will be rules that give more direction to people on how to act while in the dating process. This includes things like:

• Who pays
• When do you have to call by
• Can you use SMS/e-mail etc. or does everything have to be a phone call

We want to hear your opinion

Some of the issues in our rules have raised such a storm that we’ve come up with a way to put the decision in your court. We’re going to try a new idea whereby a different rule is discussed weekly on HaBitza.com. We’ll tell you what we think and we’ll put a poll up for you to tell us what you think. You can also write more extendedly by commenting on our blog posts. After a week, we’ll see what the conclusion is. To text or not to text? To pay or not to pay? To go out or not to go out? We want to know what you think so keep your eyes peeled (sounds painful), your keyboard skills honed, your dating survival tactics polished and we’ll keep you posted.

Thanks,

Vera and Deena