The first date – an inherently unfair experience
Check out his ambiance!
The more you think about it, the deeper you go, the more you can come to the conclusion that the first date is this weird and unfair experience. Yes, first impressions are always important (people love talking about that) but to knowingly be tested like that for a job that actually has little connection to the setting of a first date, it’s a little scary.
Actually, I feel that having faith in a Higher Being while dating is what makes the first date tolerable at all. If you believe that what is supposed to happen, will happen, you can relax, do your best (in my opinion that means being yourself, being honest and trying to be in the moment which, btw, doesn’t include imagining being married to the person) and see what happens.
So, what is the purpose of the first date?
I will assume here that you aren’t going on a random date with your mom’s friend’s cousin’s brother-in-law who you said yes to without any discrimination because you think that it’s important to say yes to every guy offered to you. I assume you do discriminate and ask questions ahead of time, trying to make sure that the basics fit before you go out.
Maybe the point of the date, then, is to just get a feel for the other person. As Vera put it, to check out the other person’s “ambiance.”
What is your goal on a first date?
P.S. This whole topic brings us to another question: Should people have a two-date rule, that they always go out on two dates with the person they’re set up with? A story for another time…
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