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Our topic of discussion of the week (besides all our random soapbox pieces) is about text messaging a rejection. People seem to have very strong reactions to this idea, that if you’ve only been on one date with the girl/guy and you know you don’t want to go out again, you can tell the person with a text message.

The people who are for it…

Some people really like the idea right away. Why should someone put you and themselves through the emotional distress of having a phone conversation with someone who is talking to you a couple of minutes out of politeness but, in fact, is planning on dumping you in a moment? This actually could be way easier for both sides, if you think about it. Being the rejecter or the rejectee is not easy.

Also, we’re only talking about instances where that first date was the first real interaction you guys had. You don’t know each other from before and there weren’t lots of phone calls or other correspondence. Because in the case of there being some amount of connection before the first date, then yes, it seems only right to at least talk to the person in order to tell them you don’t want to go out again.

The people who are against it…

Others think it’s really quite offensive. How can you not have the common courtesy of at least talking to the person, telling them on the phone. Also, maybe this would just make it too easy to break up with someone before giving them a chance. Maybe the difficulty of making the phone call is good in some way.

Please vote in the poll on the right and feel free to share your feelings on this topic.

P.S. Whether you decide to SMS a rejection or not, DON’T do it two seconds after you walk away from the person. At least wait until the next day so it’s a little less hurtful.

P.S. Those of you without cell phones, well, that’s just weird. : )