Comments on: So, you don’t like singles events. But why?

By: Shhh… I attended a singles event « HaBitza – Date like a Mensch

Shhh… I attended a singles event « HaBitza – Date like a Mensch — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 21:42:23 +0000

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By: Deena

Deena — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 21:45:20 +0000

Wow, it’s serious logistics!

By: Judith

Judith — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 18:43:17 +0000

(cough , cough)… no statistics that I know of…sorry. The amount of work relates to a) searching for the 15 some males and females 50/50). You don’t extensibly publish the event because it’s not something you want everyone to join, lo naim to reject prospects, say on age grounds. Space is limited and you have to use your own criteria to pick within the availabily, an homogeneous crowd. b) Some people declined their spot a day or two before (or an hour before), and can’t tell you what a nightmare it can be to fill up those empty spots at the last minute. c)Then there is this administrator buzzing every 10 mins so that (usually males) shift to the next chair. There is always this beauty whom no guy finds it easy to walk out on and move on to the next in line, balagan. I was only helping a little, not so simple…but very rewarding – and fun.

By: Deena

Deena — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 07:42:45 +0000

Judith, yesterday we were talking about speed dating and I’ve never done it but I was saying that to me it also sounds like a pretty good idea. And you’ve written some real pluses to the whole thing. Interesting that it takes so much work to organize it. I guess that makes sense. Too bad. I wonder if they bring better results than regular singles events.

By: Judith

Judith — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 23:11:26 +0000

One thought. I like (so to say) speed datings. I admit I participated in not more that 4, so I’m no expert here. I really liked the idea of HAVING to talk to everyone, so all that anxiety of “hard to get to that great guy with all these models around” evaporates. He will get to meet me even for those 5 or 10 mins. And all those guys I wouldn’t otherwise give a chance, will get their chance to meet me and other ladies too. Beemet, only an emotionally challenged individual cannot handle 10 mins with mr/s looser/ bruto/ …/ ect. They also do not allow for dead air/meat market/everyone is eyeing/ atmosphere we all hate. Having helped organize one of those, I know it’s a monumental amount of work and unfortunately not everyone appreciates it. Easier to call a lecturer and let everyone “smingle” (nice word for shuk basar) later.