With friends like these…
Chanale? I’d like to introduce you to a fine young man… he’s called Moishie – oh, you know him? You’re friends? Oh, you met at a singles weekend four years ago. Very nice, but what about..? I understand. You’re friends.. OK, I’ll try some other time.
Chaim? How are you? Yes, how did you guess, I’m calling to suggest…What’s her name? Chana -? Oh. You know each other. You were at a Shabbat together two months ago. So why not go… Oh, you don’t go out with friends. Oh. Well – I’ll keep trying, if you want. You’re sure? Of course I understand you want to get married, OK, I’ll see if I can think of anyone else…
Shoshana? Yes I haven’t spoken to you in ages, but this one sounds like…His name? Chaim… yes, the tall one, OK not so much hair but…Ah. You went sky-diving together 3 years ago. Don’t tell me – you’re friends, right? So you can’t go out? Oh..I understand..
Yossi? I have a terrific girl for you, her name is Shosh-…you know her? You’re facebook friends. So why don’t you…? Sorry I suggested it… have you ever met each other? No, you just chat a lot… and you wouldn’t consider..? You don’t want to rock the chat boat…
The moral of the story: If you’re single and serious about getting married, don’t spend too much time in chat rooms…
Disclaimer: any similarity with any real Chanales, Chaims, Shoshanas and Yossis is a figment of your imagination.
Date your friends! Get friendly with a nice frum girl on Facebook, or at a singles retreat, or wherever – and ask her out!
And, this might get me totally put in cherem – but girls can ask out their guy friends too!!!
Toss out your fears and just enjoy your life. How silly would it be to stay single an extra five years because you wouldn’t date your “friend” – and then suddenly a third party tells you all of his qualities, and you say yes, and find out it’s “him”?
It’s happened before. Don’t let it happen to you.