Does physical attraction matter?
Magnetic pull is dictated by physics alone. We ain't magnets.
Well, yeah, of course it matters! What a crazy question. But the real question is, when does it matter? And what are the characteristics of physical attraction?
Lets start with a very important announcement:
Do not marry someone you are not attracted to physically.
But are we being open-minded enough about looks when it just involves the beginning of a relationship? Many, or maybe all, of us have experienced people’s looks growing on us. You meet someone who you don’t think is all that wonderful looking but, as you get to know them and appreciate them more, you suddenly find your opinion about their looks change. You experience for yourself the saying, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”
You don’t want to marry someone unless you’re attracted to them but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go on a date with someone you don’t find attractive. I suppose there are extreme cases where you really cannot imagine your feelings changing but, for the most part, it’s probably worth a try.
I think a respectable approach is to focus on having a nice time with the person, enjoying getting to know them, and see if your feelings towards them develop. If, at a certain point, you don’t find yourself becoming more attracted, then best to move on. But who knows. I can only talk for myself but I have been pleasantly surprised in the past.
(Of course this brings us to a whole other topic of touch. Hopefully that’ll come soon. Not the touching, just a blog post about it.)
Photo by Ravenelle at flickr.
it’s probablly not a universal rule… but, I’ve heard that “they” say, “a woman is attracted to a man that she falls in love with and man falls in love with a woman he finds attractive”