HaBitza

Looks so innocent, doesn't it?

So, you’re trying to find your soulmate. She’s nowhere to be found! And then someone calls you, wanting to set you up with a girl they think is absolutely perfect for you (uh huh). As you hesitate, trying to decide if, from what you’ve heard, you should say yes and give this girl a try, the person says to you: “What’s the big deal? It’s just a cup of coffee.”

Sometimes that line makes me want to forgo all logic and open-mindedness and, instead spend the rest of my life hiding under my bed.

It’s just a date? How can people say that? A date is a whole array of things.

There are the stressful decisions, the nerve-wracking first phone call. Then comes the “cup of coffee” except there is so much unknown involved: Where do we meet? How do they look? Will I recognize them? How long should we stay out for? Where do we go? Who’s paying? Will it be hard to make conversation?

Then, afterwards, you sit at home trying to figure out what the hell just happened.

I can take all that, though. For me the hardest part about a date is the emotional roller coaster.

Here is the only kind of roller coaster I do like. (I’ve been on this one. It’s worth a trip to Toronto.)

The thing is, though, that a lot of the stress can be eliminated through a set of etiquette rules. Check out the rules of this site to see the changes we propose in dating that will raise the Bitza up and make us all proud, happier, and more open to putting ourselves out there.

Photo by Ballistik Coffee Boy at flickr.