Oh, so you can read her?
Will glasses help?
I am as guilty as the next. There is a certain interaction between you and someone else and you try to figure out what the other person was feeling and thinking. You use the ques you got from them in order to come to conclusions.
And then once in a while you are lucky enough to hear directly from the person what they were actually really thinking and feeling. How often do your theories match up with reality?
We must stop these shenanigans!
“She’s obviously not interested in me.” “He is inconsiderate.” “She doesn’t listen.” “He is a doof.”
Whenever I find out the truth of what someone’s motives were and what was going on in their head, I am always enlightened. I think literally, always. Why I keep doing it anyway, I do not know. I guess the unknown is uncomfortable so we try to fill it with knowns but if the known is not real but imagined, it’s not worth very much, is it? And it’s also destructive.
I think there is room for a lot more giving the benefit of the doubt and a lot less jumping to conclusions.
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